I'm supposed to celebrate "no"?

This week's assignment: Let go of the attachment to the outcome and learn to celebrate your partner's "no" to your request.

Really??????????? Why is this so hard for me? I take being told no very personally and it almost devastates me, which comes from my inner child who was emotionally abandoned as a child by my parents. My parents rarely told me no about anything but it was just easier that way for them, in my opinion, then trying to reason with me or teach me anything about life. So as an adult when I am told "no" I read it as "I don't love you", "you're not worth the time it will take to do that for you", "you really aren't that important to me". It offends me and I feel hate towards the person telling me no. Sooooo now I am supposed to make my request and step back and wait for the answer. If the answer is no, I'm supposed to be happy that my partner is telling me no so he can take care of his needs also.

I got in a little bit of trouble at my session today, which I knew I would, because I have started seeing someone and yeah, I'm nowhere near ready for that yet... I was told that the hard part hasn't even begun and being in a relationship will slow down my progress. SO, now what? I'm supposed to "put the relationship on hold" and explain to him what I am trying to achieve so that I can be a better partner in relationships. *sigh* I feel a good cry coming on.

Why does life have to be so hard. Why can't I just be "normal" whatever that means?

shacri